Dating men can be a nightmare. Especially in a city like New York, where there are more options for single guys than you could ever imagine. They’re everywhere and most of them have terrible pickup lines. And while online dating apps are great, they don’t make things any less awkward when you go on that first date. Things get even more difficult when you realize that almost all men suck. That’s right; the majority of men just aren’t good people who want to find someone special and settle down with them one day. In fact, most of these men are selfish jerks with no moral compass whatsoever. This doesn’t mean that every guy you meet is going to try and take advantage of you, lie to your face or cheat on you – but it does mean that the pool is polluted with trashy fellows who really don’t deserve a nice woman like yourself. But how do you know which ones to avoid? Well, we understand your pain and have decided to do something about it! Please read our ultimate guide on how to date men if you hate them so much!
Don’t Go on Blind Dates
This should be a no-brainer, but you’d be surprised how many women go on blind dates. There’s nothing wrong with going on dates with people you’ve met at bars or through friends, but going on a blind date is just asking for trouble. Don’t go on a date with someone you don’t know anything about. If the guy doesn’t even have the courtesy to ask you out and instead just asks you if you’re free and wants to go out with him on a specific date, don’t accept. It’s just too weird and impersonal. If you want to go out with someone, you should ask them. It’s a lot more respectful and shows that you want to go out with them because you actually like them and want to get to know them better.
Have Standards
This might sound a little shallow, but trust us, it’s important. You need to have standards when dating men so you can weed out the bad apples and focus on the good ones. If you have no standards, then you’ll end up with no one and never find anyone to settle down with, which means you’ll be single forever. And that’s no one’s dream, so raise your standards and focus on dating men you actually like. Don’t go out with anyone who doesn’t make you at least a little bit excited. If you don’t feel anything when you’re around a certain person, then don’t waste your time on them. It’s that simple.
Don’t Be Afraid To Walk Away
If a guy starts showing signs that he’s not worth your time and isn’t what you’re looking for, then walk away. Don’t be afraid to lose him or look like a fool, because he definitely is a fool for not wanting you. That doesn’t mean to walk away from every guy you don’t feel a spark with. Just walk away from the ones who are disrespectful, overly pushy or just don’t fit your standards. Don’t be afraid to walk away because then you’re just wasting their time as well as your own. Don’t let a guy drag you along. If he doesn’t want to be exclusive with you, then walk away. If he doesn’t want to take you on a proper date, then walk away. If he doesn’t want to commit to you, then walk away.
Find The Good Guys
We know that you’re probably feeling pretty down about dating men right now, but there are good guys out there. You just have to look in the right places and avoid the wrong ones. Find places where there are more women than men so things are a little more fair. This means going to more events geared towards your gender, joining more interest groups and just trying to expand your social circle. Find places where you can meet people who are serious about dating and want to find someone special. Avoid bars and clubs, because most people looking to hook up go there. Find guys who are friends with other women you know and trust. If your friends know the guy you’re dating and trust him, then he’s probably a good guy.
Know When You’re Being Played
We know that this is something that can happen to anyone, but if you’re being played, it’ll be obvious. If you’re dating a guy and he’s investing nothing in the relationship and you’re doing all the work while he just waits patiently for you to make a move, then run. Don’t let a guy string you along because he’s just waiting for you to make a move. That’s called being played. Don’t let a man take advantage of you just because he knows you want a relationship. If he’s going out of his way to keep you around because he knows that you’re desperate for a relationship, then walk away. Even if he’s not doing this on purpose, if he’s just not ready for a relationship and you’re ready for one, then that’s another sign that he’s being played.
Conclusion
Dating men can be a nightmare, but it doesn’t have to be. Follow these tips and you’ll be able to find the good guys, avoid the bad apples and have a much better dating experience. Don’t go on blind dates, don’t be desperate for a relationship and don’t let guys string you along. Be careful and know when you’re being played and you’ll have a much better dating experience.